A wife asks and a husband starts worrying

So where to begin? I guess the best place to start is at the start right?

Like many people that got into the lifestyle in the last few years it all started with a show called Open House: The Great Sex Experiment (link). The show came on TV and it was interesting so we gave it a watch. This got Mrs Anxious thinking.

For context we have been together since we were 18 and have been married since 2012, although we had had partners before that neither of us had been particularly playful or done much in the way of exploring.

So one day I am on a long wander, I think around a 16 mile one out through the countryside that day if any one cares, and I get a message from Mrs Anxious wondering what I thought about us maybe exploring some of the things we had seen on the show. Essentially, she wanted to experience some of the casual fun her friends had experienced back when they were 18ish and she hadn’t.

I wasn’t really sure how to take this and part of me was like ‘oh I see, I’m not good enough then’ but I was assured that this wasn’t the case. This conversation went on for a fair few weeks where I asked what she wanted to be able to do, how it could impact things, what would happen if I said no.

Ultimately, Mrs Anxious wanted the freedom to experiment a little with other guys. To have some of the thrill of chatting to someone new, flirting and well you get the idea with them, basically she wanted a Friend with Benefits or something like that, as it turns out she had a bit of a kink for being a Hot Wife although at the time this was a phrase we didn’t know.

After much talking and consideration we agreed that we would both have this freedom. We have always and still do hold the view that if one party in the relationship is given a freedom then the other should be given it too. They don’t necessarily need act on that freedom, that is their choice but they should have it so that everything remains fair.

I’m not going to go into what happened next, I’ll leave that for the next post. For now I’ll leave it there, thank you for reading.